Love

Written by Susanne Heart
(Evolving from being in Need to being in Love through the art of Surrendering) - Sept 2007


At one point in your evolution of consciousness you will probably discover that there is a life force flowing through all living things. When you first see this, it will be obvious to you. This life force you might call Life or God or Love. And you will see that it does not belong to any religious or new age systems. It just is...


No matter what you name it, the quality of the energy is what is important. If you look deep inside you will probably see that this is true. This great force is flowing like a river through our bodies, through nature, through all interactions, situations and experiences. It is the great Presence of Now. The flow of life. You cannot collect it, you cannot save it for later and you cannot make it yours. It is only Here and Now.



Discovering this in life is breathtaking. Discovering this in every moment – is Living. Is Being. After experiencing it once, life without it is dull. Being in this flow of Life makes you content – no matter what situation you are in. It fills you up with love. It makes you want to give your overflow of love to others. Just because it feels so natural.

Experiencing the flow of Live will make the cells in your body dance like the bubbles in champagne. And it will make you experience all of life effortlessly, with joy, inner peace and harmony.

Do you remember your first kiss? Did it not enter your whole body with its sweetness? After our “first” experiences, we think we know how things are. And we are not open anymore to experiencing it again as something new. We want to copy our good experience. At that point we have closed off the heart and gone into the mind and the illusionary world.


From Need to Love


When you are not in the flow of life, you will probably discover

that you need something from others. You need them to act a specific way or you want them to make you comfortable. You might even want others to fill your heart with love. You are not content with what is. We can say that needing is the opposite of Loving. Loving goes out of your body while needing tries to bring energies into your body to fill it up.

The needing comes from something we can call ”the black holes” created in your energy-body. These black holes suck light and have their own intelligence. At one point in time you probably made a decision about a feeling that did arise in you. It was too painful to experience fully so you put it on hold. To put it on hold you needed to distract or numb yourself. Later in life when the same feeling threatened to activate again in another situation, you had to distract yourself again. And then a pattern of avoiding situations that carried a risk for bringing up this feeling was created. And freedom to live in the flow and follow your heart was lost... or at best you could follow your heart only until a survival pattern was activated. Most of this happened on an unconscious level. You have most probably only felt like a victim and could not understand much of it.

The areas of hidden unexperienced pain create ”the black holes”. And the black holes eat life force or light from others in threatening situations because the flow in your own body is blocked. It learns how to suck energy and camouflage itself. Even when not activated, it can sneak into your everyday life to eat from others or drain your own system. These black holes is the neediness that keeps you away from fully experiencing a life in love. The pattern of avoiding situations also makes you into a puppet where others can pull your strings and push your buttons. Your reaction will be very predictable. To be free from this you have to invite in the original pain and experience it fully within you. Fully experienced it has no more control over you. It will disappear together with the black holes.

In our civilization we have accepted the neediness as natural just because it is so common. But the natural state is a state of love. Anything less is a hindrance for living your highest potential. It is time to evolve from being in Need to being in Love. Coming back to our natural state as beings in love. There is a way to cultivate this. Everybody can make the transition if they want to. But first we have to see that we are not that pain. It is just moving through us from the past.


The art of surrendering


A very powerful tool to enter the flow of life is to get to know the art of surrendering. I will call it an art because there is not a recipe for it. You will have to feel it within. Feel the quality of it. Most probably you will think you know what surrender means. There are so many interpretations of the word that has been stuck in our mind. Just forget what you already know. It is not surrendering to anyone or anything. It is surrendering to Life. I will try to explain with this example: You are in a situation that puts you in contact with a big sorrow. Tears are threatening to come out of your eyes and you hold it back so that nobody will see it. Holding it demands a lot of concentration and effort. The tears so much want to come out of you. It is most probably an old pain that has been put on hold many times. And now the pain wants to leave your body with the tears. And with your personal will you now put a lot of effort into stopping this flow of life. Because the feeling it brings along is too painful, too embarrassing. And then suddenly an inner voice tells you to just let go. To give up the fight. And in that very moment you surrender to that, without thinking. The tears flow from your body, with the pain, without resistance. At last. If you observe the energy-shift in your body in that moment, you will discover the quality of surrendering. Every muscle lets go, all stress disappears, and all tension is resolved. You feel like a drop of water falling to the earth. And it is so sweet. Afterwards you will feel lighter and more at ease in your body with a great increase of life force and joy. You have not done anything actively; you only surrendered to Life in the moment. Trusting and surrendering to the great flow of life like this will bring you to freedom very quickly. Life is so incredibly intelligent, it knows exactly what is the most efficient way for you to give up the struggle of holding on to old pain. It will show you very clearly if you listen. The hinder you have to pass is that of not knowing the specific outcome of situations. You can only trust that it serves your highest potential.

Life will give us opportunities to surrender to the flow of life constantly. Deep inside this is the most natural thing for us to do. For the time being, we are in a situation where we have collected far too much old pain in our bodies. We have put on hold a lot of experiences and now is the time to meet it and to let go of this baggage. A major cleansing is necessary. In this time of civilization we have forgotten how to surrender to life. So we have to get to know the art of surrendering again. The gateway to an easy and flowing way of living. From being in Need to being in Love.


The river of Grace


If you look at the life force as a river you might see more clearly why it serves you to surrender to life. So, imagine Life as this powerful river. You are in it. You float on it. It carries you on its enormous powers. Whether shallow and calm waters or waterfalls, it will hold you. You don’t have to do anything yourself. Many experiences will be presented to you on the way. You can just lean back and enjoy the ride. This is being in the flow of Life. Being held in Love.

On the other hand, if you had your own agendas on where to go based on needs, you would have to fight the power of the river to get where you wanted. This would make you exhausted very quickly. Almost all your resources would be occupied with fighting and there would hardly be any resources left to experience life. This is where most human beings are living their day-to-day reality. Can you accept that this is how you live your life? (Feel it deep inside. Defending or arguing will only delay the process even though you probably have really good arguments.)

The great life force is really so powerful and all it wants to do is to help you. Our small individual wills have really no power compared to this. Let life take you and see that it really carries your own true undiscovered power. An incredible opening that will make your life complete.

All of this is just words until you experience it yourself. And with words we can try to explain the same experience in many ways. For some it will click into place in the one story, for others in another other story. None of them will give the complete picture, but it can be used as inspiration for you to trust life and to get in contact with your own inner wisdom. If you feel anything touching your heart after reading this article, stay with that. See where you are and be brave. And please, do not believe in any of this with your mind. Only feel it within. You should be able to feel the important things for you in your own heart.


Walking towards the source


Another way of looking at what is happening with us in this time is the following.

In this specific time humanity has stretched the ego or the individuality towards maximum capacity. We carry no more fuel to continue the journey. The feeling of separation has made us live in fear of each other. Look at how we have systemized society to avoid each other. If the sun is the source of life, we have travelled like beams out from the sun. Discovering our individuality. Now we are so far away from the source we barely have more life energy left. We have tried stealing life energy from each other or at best exchanging with each other, but we are discovering that it does not really work. Time has come to travel back to the source to recharge and melt with the whole.

This might sound like a fairytale to you? But listen deep inside

and even deeper. At one point in your individual journey I guess it will ring true and become a reality to you. As humanity we are one even if there are small individual timings that are different. As I have been shown, we have all marched out there and away from the source to explore our individual self – even our individual spiritual selves. Some of us hit the ”wall” of depression and turned around. Some of us reached all our individual goals and experienced that happiness was not there after all so we turned around as well. Some of us needed an ”accident” or an illness to turn around. And some of us are still walking towards the individual success. We all need to experience for ourselves and it takes the time it takes. But from what I see humanity as one is now turning around towards the source again. If you are a teenager or are still exploring your individuality in life, keep on doing so. Just be open and listen to your heart when it is time. Then you might need these guidelines provided to you. Many people have already started the journey inwards and are very happy to be at service to make it easier for the rest. In this process helping another, from love (not from need), is really helping oneself.

From what I have seen we have been building our sets of personalities while walking on the individual paths out there. At one point we started identifying with these personalities. People around us has pointed towards us and told us who we are – and we believed them. Later those personalities have occupied our bodies and minds and they arise in different situations to feed and get stronger. They have their own life. By turning around towards the source again we start being confronted by the same personalities. They need to die. In the beginning it can seem like something is wrong because you feel truly threatened. That is because you are really identifying with these personalities. But soon you will see that it is only the personalities occupying your body and mind that feel threatened. It is not really you. By just staying in the feeling of pain without trying to change it, these occupants will leave your body one by one. Their “food” disappears. A feeling of threat is not the same as danger – it is only a feeling arising from past. Seeing this mechanism is beautiful and makes you inspired to continue. And after each dying you feel more free and charged with life energy.

Seeing this natural healing for what it is will make you welcome each old stored pain into your daily consciousness with open arms. You are walking towards the source and you get to meet your ”old self” in the doorway. It is like seeing your life in review – before you die physically. When the stored emotional pain arises into daily consciousness it looks like old pain from the past is taking you again. And it can, if you still believe you are that pain. Seeing that the pain is just travelling through your daily consciousness on its way out of your body and mind is essential. It knows it’s way out of you. It’s up to you not to stop it. If you don’t know how this process works you might believe in the emotions passing by and you will again be trapped in the drama. What happens then is that your journey back to the source is put on hold. Being trapped in old emotional pain again might make you go in loops and you will feel drained of energy. When daring to stay in the feeling of the pain you have an opportunity to pass one hindrance after the other.

We can say that surrendering to Life and letting personalities die, is the same thing. In both experiences you will first feel an inner conflict, and by staying in the feeling of the original pain and experiencing it fully, you will become free from it. For most of us this process will happen naturally. The longing in our hearts will guide us to meet the pain. We no longer want to live a life of compromises. If you are ready for this transformation, the following steps can be used as guidance. But listen to it only if it feels right in your heart.




Letting life guide you


You carry pain in your body and mind even if you are not aware of it. You might only see the result of it as a lack of flow and love in your life. The first step is to see and accept that you are where you are.

Second step is to ask Life to guide you back to your love and true power. This is what many people call praying. But the most important thing is that you feel the intensity of it deep inside. Feel that you really long for this guidance to happen. After ”praying” say and feel thank you as if it had already happened. The deeper you can feel this inside of you, the deeper you will experience your prayers being heard. This is how miracles can happen. Do not underestimate the power of your authentic prayer.



Third step is to wait. You do not need to do anything but keeping your eyes and awareness open. Life from now on will show you where you are not in the flow of Life. You will start to see that every time life is not in ease, you are fighting with the flow. It is very common that prior to seeing this, a frustration is building up inside of you. It can be an emotional, physical, or even a spiritual frustration. You might feel that you are doing the ”right” thing but still it is not working as you had wished. You have not done anything wrong; it is only Life showing you the way back to your true power. When a frustration like this rises to it’s maximum, you might feel huge pain with it. Then you know that the process is working, as it should. At one point you get to the place where you want to close off or numb yourself somehow. The feeling of need is very strong at this point. In the past you might have chosen your needs many times, as most of us have. This time you can try a new approach. This is where the fun starts.

So the forth step is to surrender to Life. Surrendering is not something you actively do. It just happens naturally if you don’t stop it. You see, the frustration that has built up inside you is the fuel for surrendering. When you hit the place where you see that you have no more solutions on how to try to solve your problem,


it is easy to give it up. Because you see that you cannot do anything more. When you feel the time is there, ”fall down on your knees” and give your burden up to Life. You can pray like this: ”I see that I cannot fix this myself, I give it all up to you Life. Thank you for showing me how to be free.”




If you really managed to surrender completely, you will now feel the burden being lifted off your shoulders. Now it is time to expect a miracle.



Continue to keep your eyes open and be aware of new opportunities for surrendering. After doing this for some time you will start to see what it does for you in your life. And as time passes you will be able to surrender more and more quickly and with less and less ”fuel” (frustration) as your awareness grows.



Making love with the Universe


It is important to know that the surrendering is all on the inside. You don’t have to surrender to any other person or situation. It is more like cutting a string of attachment to the outcome of situations. When you let your personal control of life go like that, life can more easily give you maximum benefits. Let the feeling of control go and see change happen on the outside just by itself.

The transition from being in Need to being in Love can be achieved very quickly through the art of surrendering. Every time you discover that you are being in Need, you can let yourself surrender to Life. But for most people it will be easier with a frustration build-up in the beginning. After you get the hang of it you can be in constant surrendering-mode every moment of the day, without doing anything. It is fun and life becomes a miracle itself. It feels like the whole Universe is backing you up – and it does!

And at one point in your evolution of consciousness you will probably discover that there is a life force flowing through all living things. That is when you just jump into the flow of life and let it love you completely. This flow knows exactly how to cleanse you and bring you to your full potential. Your contribution to it all is only to give yourself to it. The only constant thing in life – is change. May your journey be filled with joy and happiness forever and ever.